Proposing: Are you Ready? Is he about to?

With wedding season around the corner, proposals are promising.  How do you know if you’re ready? How do you know if he’s about to pop the question?

Thanks to our friends at The Knot, we’ve gathered some information on signs to keep an eye out for from your man, and as a man, how to know if you’re ready to get down on one knee.


Marriage Proposals: 7 Reasons You’re Ready to  Propose

For the guys — how to know whether you’re ready to get  married.

Some men face the prospect of proposing with sheer terror, while others feel  compelled to pop the question on the second date. Regardless of where your  personality falls, here are seven ways to be sure you’re ready for marriage.

You’re Open About Your Finances

Make no mistake about it: Despite your undying love and devotion, money  matters. Even if you and your girlfriend aren’t swimming through pools of gold  Scrooge McDuck-style, you should at least be familiar with your financial  situations (and okay with the fact that your big splurges are video games and  sneakers). If one or both of you are deeply in debt, money (or your lack  thereof) could be an immediate source of conflict in your marriage. You don’t  need to know each other’s salaries to the dime, but if you’re open about your  savings, you’ll avoid any “You owe a bookie how much?” moments.

You Hit a Milestone

If you’ve just made a big professional advance (like a raise or a promotion),  it may be the perfect time to take the next big step in your personal life too.  “A lot of guys set goals for themselves,” says Matt Bean, senior editor at  Men’s Health magazine, “and until they’ve reached a certain level in  their careers or feel they’ve squirreled away enough money to support a family,  they’re just not in the mode of getting married.” For Steve, 25, the time felt  right when he became a homeowner. “I realized my house wouldn’t be a home  without her in it,” he says. “I was just ready to move forward with my life.”  Your relationship is just like anything else you’ve worked hard toward, and the  payoff is equally as rewarding.

You’ve Discussed Your Future

Have you talked about your plans for going on vacation together this summer,  and your plans together 10 years from now? If you and your girlfriend  speak naturally and sincerely about your future together (even if you’re not  sure where you’ll be or what you’ll be doing), that sort of confidence bodes  well for your relationship. “We never spoke of marriage, but we did speak of  later times in life,” says Dave, 32, who surprised his girlfriend with a  proposal in the Santa Monica Mountains. “She had no clue, and, when I asked, she  had no doubt.”

She’s Aware of Your Ambitions

Everyone has ambitions (your goal to eat your weight in Buffalo wings? Sure,  that counts too), but make sure your aspirations don’t conflict with those of  your girlfriend. If you plan to spend all your savings to start your own  business in five years or, better yet, plan on spending a few months roaming  with nomads in the Sahara, your girlfriend should know about that before you ask her to marry you.

Your Friends Are Fans

Chances are you’ve dated a woman or two who your friends didn’t like much.  Regardless of the root of their disdain, a relationship becomes tough when your  friends don’t want anything to do with your girlfriend. “A guy’s friends are, in  various ways, reflections of his own character,” Bean says, so animosity between  friends and girlfriend can be a definite red flag. If, on the other hand, your  buddies have given her a resounding thumbs-up, you can rest easy knowing you  won’t have to spend your life choosing between her and them.

You Know She’ll Say Yes…for the Right Reasons

This may seem obvious,  but if you feel the chance of her accepting your proposal is iffy, it’s probably  not the right time to ask. If the ups and downs of your relationship have left  you dizzy, don’t try to steady the ship by asking her to marry you. If you  propose just because you want a quick fix, she might turn you down or — even  worse — she might be blinded by the moment and accept your proposal only to  doubt her decision later on. Ask her to marry you when you know you’re both on  the same page about spending your lives together, not when you’re trying to  salvage a relationship gone awry.

She’s Dropping Hints…and That’s Okay

Maybe she’s mentioned how she’s really into cushion-cut diamonds. Or that  she’d love to honeymoon in Venice. Or perhaps her hints are a little less subtle  (The Knot magazine mysteriously appears on your coffee table). Her mind  is on marriage, and she’s feeling out whether you’re ready. If your instinct is  to change the subject, cower in a corner, or shrug off the idea of an engagement  entirely, you’re likely not in a position to propose. But if the idea of  marrying your girlfriend excites you, the only thing left is to buy a ring and  start brainstorming ways to propose.

And for the Ladies:

Marriage Proposals: 7 Signs He’s About to  Propose

Is your guy acting a little…different? It could be a  sign of bright bling to come.

His apartment is clean, he’s  saving money, and Thursday night poker with the guys has turned into date night  with you? Either your guy is coming down with something, or he’s planning to pop  the question. Read on for more telltale signs that he’s ready to say “I do.”


He’s Growing out of His Bachelor Ways

You can tell his bachelor days are  behind him when his number-one priority is no longer himself. If he’s constantly  using terms like “we” and “our,” and plans for a weekend with the guys in Vegas  are suddenly on the back burner while weekend picnics with you are becoming more  common, he’s probably not just sick of his buddies. He might’ve realized that he  prefers a more settled lifestyle, and this transition puts him squarely on the  path to proposing.

He’s Redecorating

A new couch may be just the start of major life changes.You may also notice certain items have disappeared  from his pad, like his college posters and Star Wars memorabilia. Did he  ditch that ugly brown chair for a nice new couch? It could be the start of major  changes — your boyfriend is making room in his life for you, both physically  and emotionally.

He’s Curbing Big Purchases

Has your boyfriend gone from big spender to  Scrooge? The plasma-screen TV he’d been planning to buy isn’t hanging over his  mantel, and instead of buying rounds of drinks at happy hour after work, he’s  home cooking dinner. No, he’s not training for Top Chef; he’s started to  eliminate frivolous spending to brace for a large down payment (on your engagement  ring). And it’s not just the jewelry he’s saving for — he may be putting  away money now so that the two of you will be comfortable well into the future.

He’s Not Complaining About Weddings

While at a wedding together, it’s  more than just the usual eagerness for an open bar. He’s not cracking jokes  during the vow exchange — he’s commenting on the couple’s first-dance  song choice and the meal selection. Take it as a sign that he’s paying  attention to all things wedding-related because matrimony is on his mind.

He’s Taken an Interest in Your Jewelry

Has he been complimenting your  great ability to accessorize? Snooping around in your jewelry box? Holding your  hand, constantly? All kidding aside, when your favorite ring goes missing,  you’ll know for sure that he’s trying to find a covert way to figure out your  size.

He Wants to Meet the Parents

Okay, so he’s probably already met your  parents. If he hasn’t and has become insistent on meeting them, it’s probably  for a good reason. But if he already knows them well and has become the first to  RSVP for your nephew’s birthday party, jumps at the chance for a weekend visit  with your parents, or, even more telling, tries to plan outings for both your  families to hang out together, he’s ready for the next step.

He’s Acting out of Character

You know his daily routine inside and out,  and any variation is enough to give you pause. If he’s super-insistent that you  guys do something you never do (like take a walk through a park or drive to a  place to watch the sunset), he may be setting you up to speak those four little  words: “Will you marry me?” After all that hard work, be sure to make it easy on  him and say yes!


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